Hearing the heartbeat and telling people
By Catherine Hudson, editor of FashTravels
FashBaby: A whole new kind of adventure hosted at FashTravels. Here, you’ll find a weekly diary of my pregnancy journey.
And so, here we are. 19 weeks in and our baby firmly on board. I know this because, after feeling nauseous for three months, enduring endless tension headaches and that well documented, and ‘good-grief-its-totally-true’, dire exhaustion, I have finally felt my baby kicking, or punching, me from the inside – and it’s the best feeling ever. I wonder how long before I start complaining about this making me feel queasy? Motherhood, eh? It’s already a tale of two halves.
I already know impatience is my worst quality. At 6 weeks, I declared I would stop worrying at 12 weeks. Then at 12 weeks, I said at 20 weeks I would feel a lot better. The fervent Googling has calmed down a lot, but now it’s all, ‘what will the baby look like’ and ‘I hope it has a normal sized head and two eyes’ – and I just can’t wait, I can’t WAIT to see it. So much so that we are considering a 4D scan – any thoughts about that? I heard the heart beating away at 155BPM at my 16-week midwife appointment. I recorded it so that my partner and family could listen in, too. Isn’t it magical? I like going to the midwife, as it gives me a bit of reassurance that A). The baby is still baking away and that B). I am doing the best things possible for it.
Baby on toast!
How to tell people you’re pregnant
Forging ever onwards and our news is well and truly out there. We’ve told friends and family in person and via Moonpig scan created postcards (wonder if you do all this with baby two?), and announced our baby bundle on social media – which means it’s really happening, right? It has been joyous to read all the messages of congratulations: our baby is already so loved.
Announced our news on Instagram
I’ve already learned that people love to share their own, and their friends of friends’, experiences, which can be SO helpful. But I’ve found that the best thing for me is to listen, and pick and choose what to take on board. We have decided that, along with old wives tales about me having a boy or girl, superstitious tales and extreme birth stories are going in the bin. As long as we are both healthy, we’re happy.
On another, more materialistic note, I am loving the new shopping potential. Maternity clothes? Baby gear? Bring it all on! All the things I have written about for so many years have come very suddenly into sharp focus. What pram should I get? What will the baby sleep in? And how do you fit a car seat? Where the hecky peck do we start? Currently I have an empty spare room, a buzzing Instagram, and a head full of lots of ideas…
* I must prelude anything I write in this blog series as totally my own experiences and opinions. I’ve already learned to prefix everything I say in general conversation about pregnancy and babies with, ‘everyone’s different, but…’
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Inside my baby brain…
What I am loving, this week
1 Caffeine-free tea – I have chosen to take caffeine pretty much off the menu since I found out I was pregnant – bar the odd, desperate, three or four cups of instant coffee plus giant bars of chocolate, because, well, chocolate So I was very happy to discover HotTea Mama‘s delicious, caffeine-free themed teas, to suit all stages of pregnancy (there’s one to help morning sickness and for soothing nighttimes) and new motherhood. £6 per box, hotteamama.com
You need, these H&M jeans…
2 Maternity bras and jeans – Oh the relief of a comfy bra. Goodbye underwire! Same goes for maternity jeans: I am never wearing normal jeans again, the comfort of the over-the-bump ones, especially in the winter, is sublime. I have bought my basic maternity bras in multipacks from Mothercare, and love the pretty ones at Cake Lingerie, and my MAMA Super Skinny maternity jeans (above) from H&M, and the ones from JoJo Maman Bebe.
3 Maternity pyjamas, and tights – These used to be high on my list of ‘things I probably won’t need, because all pyjamas are comfy’… I can tell you now; I have never felt comfort like wearing maternity/new mama pyjamas. When I get home, which I try to make as early as possible these days, I put these on and hibernate on the sofa, and it is just wonderful. Also now on the list of ‘things I thought I wouldn’t need but now live for’ are maternity tights. Don’t put up with being uncomfortable – you just don’t have to! I am LIVING in these Bloom and Blossom x Mamas & Papas pyjamas (pictured above), and my JoJo Maman Bebe maternity tights.
Yes, you need me! Don’t suffer the cheese wire tights…
What I am loathing, this week
1 Having my whooping cough jab – Ouch, that hurt. I have also had my flu jab, which some find a bit controversial, but I read a lot about it from health experts and decided it was the best choice for me.
2 Not getting a seat on my commute – Apparently no one sees ‘the badge’ because they all have their heads in their phones. I politely ask if anyone minds if I sit down, because of the swaying, rucksack in face/bump danger and general sick feeling that comes with pregnancy. Generally people get up, but all you (tends to be women) who pretend not to see me – I see you.
Read my column every week here on FashBaby (a whole new kind of adventure) at FashTravels.com, to follow my pregnancy journey
- The pregnancy diaries: ‘I’m pregnant. Now what?’ – Introduction: Weeks 0-18
Hello, my name is Catherine and I‘m pregnant!
- The pregnancy diaries: ‘I’m pregnant. Now what?’ – Week 19
Hearing the heartbeat and telling people
- The pregnancy diaries: ‘I’m pregnant. Now what?’ – Week 20
Sleeping, 20-week scan and nesting
- The pregnancy diaries: ‘I’m pregnant. Now what?’ – Week 21
Confidence, quiet time and trial runs
- The pregnancy diaries: ‘I’m pregnant. Now what?’ – Week 22
The one where we went on a babymoon to Sri Lanka
- The pregnancy diaries: ‘I’m pregnant. Now what?’ – Week 23
Bathtime, being lazy and shaving rules
- The pregnancy diaries: ‘I’m pregnant. Now what?’ – Week 24
We’re a team, baby – you, me and…
- The pregnancy diaries: ‘I’m pregnant. Now what?’ – Week 25
Seeing your baby in 4D – what is it and is it a good idea?
- The pregnancy diaries: ‘I’m pregnant. Now what?’ – Week 26
Christmas, acid reflux and wondering who I am